Tuesday, 31 March 2015
Here's the best way to make friends when you're a grown-up
From Business Insider
by Drake Baer
"When I moved to New York three years ago I knew about six people.
One from my hometown, a few from school, and a few more from when I was living abroad.
So, as a contemplative weirdo tends to do, I became a regular at my friendly neighbourhood meditation center — Shambhala in Chelsea.
Among other amazing humans, I met Gustavo, an artist from Brazil, and Sarah, a yoga teacher from upstate New York.
We would run into each other at the same meditation classes. Still do.
They have become two of my best friends, the kind of people you turn to when going through a breakup or trying to sort out a career decision. When Gustavo had his son Theo, Sarah and I both joyously freaked out.
But I never would have met them through the social networks I came to New York with. I had to become a regular.
It turns out that my experience is backed up by the research.
For decades, sociologists have known that friendships develop when people have the right mixture of proximity, privacy, and unplanned interactions.
But those things are increasingly scarce in adulthood, what with everybody being so insanely busy..." more